"I want it to be inconvenient; I want to sacrifice my life for it. I want the kind of love that wakes me up at 3am. I want love that hurts, love that I have to work for. I want love that tests me. I want the kind of love that is hard to find, and hard to keep and never easy. I want the kind of love where you get hurt. I want love that makes me cry. I want to hold on even if it takes me through my worst nightmare. But most of all I want the kind of love that's worth it."
Admit it. You've felt that way before. I'm not afraid to say that I have too. People always tell you how amazing love is. And after hearing it so much you just have to wonder if it's true. How does it feel to be in love? The feeling is indescribable. Even the best poets don't do it justice, not by a long shot.
"Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more."
It's true though. Allowing yourself to love someone is opening yourself up for possible heartbreak. You're at your most vulnerable point, and are just trusting that the other person won't take the advantage of the opportunity and rip your heart out. It's scary. Intimidating. But if you can't be open with someone, you're going to feel lonely and much worse off, most likely. Risking everything means you might lose it all. And that's okay. Because at least you'll know you tried, right? You can only fail if you give up. So take a chance. Maybe you'll get hurt. But maybe the pain is worth it. Maybe after it's all said and done you'll understand everything just a little better. Maybe it will work out and you'll live happily ever after. Okay, so the last one probably isn't true. But there's nothing wrong with having a positive outlook on life.
“Falling in love with someone isn't always going to be easy... Anger... tears... laughter.. It's when you want to be together despite it all. That's when you truly love another. I'm sure of it.”
Nothing to say to this one. It says it all for me.
“It is impossible to fall out of love. Love is such a powerful emotion, that once it envelops you it does not depart. True love is eternal. If you think that you were once in love, but fell out of it, then it wasn't love you were in. There are no 'exit' signs in love, there is only an 'on' ramp."
I feel like this is one of the most true quotes I've read so far. I don't know about any of you, but I used the excuse "I fell out of love" once before. It's all a lie. Once you love someone, that's that. If you really do love them, there's always going to be a part of you that will. They fill a void in you and stay there for the rest of your life. There is no purging yourself of that. If things don't work out, it's not because you don't love them. It's because of other things that got in the way. But if you love them enough, you won't let those things get in the way, no matter how difficult it gets. You'll keep trying endlessly because that's what you do when you love someone. You don't just let them go. You try and try and try, and that's all there is to it.
“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”
Now I'm starting to wonder how all of these people who wrote these things can state it so well... They know how to say the truth and make you sit there nodding your head saying, "Yep, that's exactly how I feel!" As much as I dislike these things this quote mentions, I still love love. The good has to outweigh the bad eventually, right? Isn't that how it's supposed to work?
“Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own.”
I think after all that has happened, I'm finally starting to get this all through my head. Before, it was always about me. I didn't care about what he wanted or how he felt. I cared about getting what I wanted, and making myself happy. And now I can see how childish that was of me. What was I thinking? I ruined something that had the potential to be great, all because of my selfishness. Your happiness is more important than mine is to me. All I want is for you to have everything you've ever wanted. Maybe that's not me. If that's the case, I'll live with that. I'd rather things stay just as they are than to make you unhappy again.
Oh, dear... it looks like I'm growing up. Better go watch some Disney Channel to age me down a bit.
Goodnight. :)
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Okay, the impossible to fall out of love one jumped up and grabbed me. There's only been one guy I've been truly in love with, and I still am not over him. Every night before I go to sleep, his name appears in my mind, everytime I see a car that looks like his, or someone in a white jersey, or hear something that was related to us, all those memories come flooding back. It's frustrating and nice at the same time, I really don't think I'll ever fully get over him.
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